HOW TO MAKE A GOOD DECISION IN YOUR LIFE

MAkE YOURSELF BEST VERSION of YOU

Ask this 12 Question to yourself and write down the answer and read it very carefully.

• Who are you spending time with ?

There is a saying that “Show me your friend and I will show your future” ,it means that the time you spend with, the effect of that person or things comes into your behavior , habit , attitude either in a good way or in a bad way. But it is your choice with whom you want to be and what you want to be in your life .

In 1936, psychologist Kurt Lewin wrote a simple equation that makes a powerful statement: Behavior is a function of the Person in their Environment, or B = f(PE).

• Is this in My Control?

“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own…” by EPICTETUS (one of the great stoic philosopher).

The same is true for us today. If we can focus on making clear what parts of our day are within our control and what parts are not, we will not only be happier, we will have a distinct advantage over other people who fail to realize they are fighting an unwinnable battle.No matter how hard you try, you can’t make someone like you. So won’t worry more what other thinks this is not in your control what is ,find and work on that and be better in that only.

• What Does your Ideal Day Look Like ?

It’s totally depend upon “How we spend our lives is how we spend our days”. So decide a life what you want to live in future and start spending yours days like that only. There is saying that “FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT..!”

Pretend to be something you’re not until you are, fake it until your are successful, until everybody sees you the way you want them to.

“You start out as a phony and become real.” ➖ Glenn O’Brien

• To Be or To Do?

It is human behavior that we all want attention or reward of the things what we have done , in very less period of time . But Good result take time always remember it . So doing will make you more and more sharp in your field and only being make you egoistic ,that will cause your fall.

It’s Amazing “How much you accomplish if you don’t care about who get’s the credit.” It’s says that when you help some one with your right hand then your left had should not know about this , this is the real meaning of doing or helping.

• If I am not for Me, Who is ?— If I am only for me , Who am I?

This question will help in you in both ways one is when you have doubt and hate for yourself and other when you will become narcissist.

Just ask yourself that “If you are unable to help yourself how will you help others”. So it is very important for the person to give love , care , help and all other things what he/she wants from the the world is first given by himself/herself.

And this second part “If I am only for me ” this will make you egoistic which will turn into making wrong decision for yourself in long-run.

It is not complicated question, simple answer is you are important for yourself first and this world has need of you . So make yourself worthy for this small world.

• What am I Missing By choosing to worry or be afraid?

We cry to God Almighty, how can we escape this agony? Fool, don’t you have hands? Or could it be God forgot to give you a pair? Sit and pray your nose doesn’t run! Or, rather just wipe your nose and stop seeking a scapegoat.”-EPICTETUS

The world is unfair. The game is rigged.

We have a choice: Do we focus on the ways we have been wronged, or do we use what we’ve been given and get to work? Will we wait for someone to save us, or will we listen to Marcus Aurelius’ s empowering call to “get active in your own rescue-if you care for yourself at all- and do it while you can.” That’s better than just blowing your own nose (which is a step forward in itself).

• Are you Doing your Job ?

“Most of the time we only focus on others job rather that own”. Its better to do our own job(work, duty). And once we start doing that we won’t get enough time to focus on other which will help us in many ways.

Nowadays we know that our education system won’t help us directly more so instead of focusing on that we should find a way do our job done, because internet is free to do so and won’t waste our time and energy in simple problem, then only we will focus on bigger one. Like this only we will do in all field.

• What is the Most Important thing ?

In very current movement of life Something is always most important which should be done very first , Find that important thing.

• Who is this For?

When we start doing our job we forget about many thing like our family (loved one) , health and most important our character, which will make you weak over a long period of time so think wisely and do what you do.

And if you want more to know on this , I will suggest you to read at least first two chapter of book “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari”.

• Does this Actually matter?

Ask yourself at every moment “IS THIS ESSENTIAL” because most of what we do and say is not essential, which will cause you in losing many good in you. When you eliminate the inessential you get the double benefit of doing the essential things better.

• Will this be live time or dead time ?

“Now is Now” we loss out important time either thinking of past or in worry of future and this makes us back in queue. “It’s not we had wasted time but we are wasting more as time is killings us”.

• Is this who i want to be ?

“A person who doesn’t know what the universe is, doesn’t know where they are. A person who doesn’t know their purpose in life doesn’t know who they are or what the universe is. A person who doesn’t know any one of these things doesn’t know why they are here. So what to make of people who seek or avoid the praise of those who have no knowledge of where or who they are?” ➖MARCUS AURELIUS

Have you taken the time to get clarity about who you are and what you stand for? Or are you too busy chasing unimportant things, mimicking the wrong influences, and following disappointing or unfulfilling or nonexistent paths?

—> What is the meaning of the Life?

This is the bonus question but most important , this what we ask .

But Actually, it is the life that is asking us that question And it’s our actions and decisions that provide the the answer.